The secret of romance

An adult partnership must be practical as well as romantic. This was probably what Prince Harry meant when he hinted in an interview with CBS News that it wasn’t that easy finding a young woman happy to spend her life opening fetes and kissing him in public.  ‘I mean, look at me  – I’m 27 years old, and not so much searching for someone to fulfil the role, but obviously, you know, finding someone that would be willing to take it on.’

(Although he might possibly have expressed this in a more succinct manner. I do find all this ‘you-know’-ing strange for someone with an Eton education.)

It’s no use expecting everyday life to be strewn with rose petals. A harmonious domestic set-up is more of a business arrangement.  I remember congratulating Katherine Thomas and her enormously tall husband Olly on their successful mistletoe stall at the PTA Christmas Fayre, and she laughed and said, ‘Well, we’re a team, aren’t we?’ (I appreciated the sentiment. But can you really have a team consisting of just two people?  It seems a little sparse. I think a team ought to be numerous enough to entertain Cameron and Obama in a basketball male-bonding session.)

Modern marriage  – religious, gay or otherwise  –  cannot focus exclusively on romance. Unfortunately, many of my neighbours in Fitton haven’t caught up with this. I hear in the school playground that our local Relate counsellor is extremely busy. I won’t mention names, of course, but it does seem to me that buying and selling houses must be an extraordinarily stressful job.

Personally I believe there is much to be said for lowering your expectations. It’s only if you’re hell-bent on finding the perfect soul-mate that you end up horribly disappointed.

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